Today I found a little piece of sunshine.
I used to play tennis in primary school, had some coaching lessons, played in my early 20s and then went overseas and didn’t play again for about 3 years until we came back to Australia. Once settled, I played every Monday night in a team of 4 and really enjoyed hitting against the other teams and building up my strength and skills.
Then along came the babies and there wasn’t time for tennis anymore or there were football games that had to played and I had to stay home and look after the kids.
Last month I saw an ad in the paper looking for ladies to play tennis for 2 hours every Friday morning and I jumped at the chance (now that both kids are at school). So I went down this morning and met 5 lovely ladies and we played at least 24 games of tennis. It was great! I felt great! It was like I’d never been away from the game.
I’ll feel achy and sore tomorrow but it will be worth it.
What little piece of sunshine have you found recently?
“Put the broom back where it belongs. It’s not that hard.”
“Put the lint collector back in the dryer. It’s not that hard.”
Yes, I know these things aren’t hard, but when you’re trying to do 5 things at once and you get distracted by someone at the door, or you trip over a barbie doll that needs to be put away,or the phone rings, or one of the kids needs something (you get the picture), then sometimes you just dump whatever it is you’re holding wherever you tend to be standing and little things get forgotten along the way. Easy to do, don’t you think?
It’s not like I have a “memory like a sieve”, it’s just that I usually start another job before fully completing the first one.
It’s quite frustrating and insulting to be told “it’s no that hard’ when you’ve been racing around all day trying to get everything done before school finishes. To me, it’s not a life or death situation if the broom gets left beside the cupboard instead of being placed back beside the fridge.
I constantly see objects in the wrong places and I either ignore them, ask for them to be put away or put them back where they belong myself. No comment, no making a mountain out of a mole hill – I just pop it back where it belongs.
Do you finish one job before starting the next or are you like me, trying to do everything at once and forgetting things along the way!
This would be a funny story, if it hadn’t happened to me. On returning home from holidays one weekend with the kids, Hubby informed us that he had a surprise. I was getting a bit excited, wondering what it could be. Maybe he’d washed up? No, dirty dishes still on the sink. Maybe he’d cleaned up the junk room? No, still sky high full of clothes, books, tapes (yes, tapes!) road maps and other paraphernalia Hubby refuses to part with.
He took us out onto the back verandah and that’s when I saw the large cage with not one, but TWO dirty big RATS in it. I was horrified. I had to bite my tongue. I think this type of surprise definitely warranted a discussion! Don’t you? Who would have thought rodents would be moving in while I was off enjoying my lovely holiday and of course I couldn’t kick them out now- they had settled in nicely, snug as a bug inside the cage making their little nest. The kids were squealing with delight and thought these creatures were fantastic (are they mad?). They were so excited to have these new additions to our family. The poor cats got tossed by the wayside the minute the kids laid eyes on these new play things. Naturally, the excitement only lasted a few weeks and then came the whinging about changing the water, feeding them and cleaning the cage.
On the upside they did like to sit in your lap for a cuddle and crawl along your shoulders (some readers will be shuddering at the thought) and I did feel sad when one caught a cold and died and then shortly after so did the other one. However, let’s just say, I don’t think we’ll be getting rats as pets again anytime soon – especially if I have anything to say about it! I can look back now and laugh but I was not a happy camper at the time.
Has something like this ever happened to you?
Life is full of ups and downs and everyone is faced with dilemmas, forks in the road and making choices about relationships, parenting, work, friendships, money, home life, health, the environment and even what to have for dinner!
I’m the type of person who prefers to avoid confrontation so I used to ignore a lot of things that I wasn’t happy about and just went with the flow in order to keep the peace, even though I felt guilty or unhappy about some of my choices. I am a ‘yes’ person and always do my best to please everybody, which is really exhausting and pretty much impossible as one party always ends up being upset with me. I also used to keep all my annoyances and frustrations bottled up inside until it all became too much and eventually boiled over (not a pretty sight).
Over the years I have learnt that you can’t change other people, you have to change yourself. I feel that I’ve become a stronger person and I’m happier about that. I can stand up for myself now (well, most times! Unfortunately there’s still situations where I let people walk all over me) and I’m able to speak up when I don’t agree with something or I’m not happy about it. Of course, there are still times when I feel a bit down and wish things could be different. I want my life to be perfect but is that even possible? I’m still aiming for a balance right now and realise that sometimes I need to let things go or look at situations more positively.
I found talking to friends and writing down my thoughts, experiences and feelings helped clear my head so I wasn’t mulling over the same thing again and again. Yoga is a great outlet too: calms and relaxes me helping to de-clutter my thoughts and expel any anxiety or stress.
I decided to start this blog so I can write down any situations (the good, the bad and the ugly) that constantly reappear in my thoughts throughout the day and keep me awake at night. I’d love for readers to offer their thoughts, ideas, advice or solutions and I’m hoping that your comments will help others too!